2-3-4 Friday - Why you're not loving your work 

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1 THOUGHT 

Here’s a manifesto to loving your work. 

 

I’m not at work to make a dying. I’m here to make a living. To live out my fullest life, talents, and skills. 

 

I’m not at work to make you happy. I’m here to make myself happy. 

 

I’m not at work to be bullied. I will stand up for myself. I’ll say no to BS. Any BS. 

 

I’m not at work to do the photocopying. I’m not here to do the small things. I’m here to do big things, to live big dreams, to contribute in a big way. 

 

I’m not at work to settle. I’m here because I’m unapologetically ambitious. I’m here to go far - further than anyone will ever go. 

 

I know, the manifesto may sound outrageous. Even crazy. 

But in my clinical practice, I once counselled a young man who was bullied at work. His supervisor would pick on every email and grammatical error he sent. His colleagues would talk behind his back. His confidence was shattered. And one night, he decided to end it all. Fortunately, he gave us a call before doing that. 

 

No one is here at work to make a dying. But look at your own job, and you may see some aspects of yourself you’ve had to kill or shear off to fit in. That’s okay. 

 

But it matters that you are conscious of the aspects of yourself that you’re putting aside, to make work possible. 

 

Because so often, you end up in a place you don’t want to be, doing something you don’t want, to afford things you don’t want, to make other people happy. 

Not yourself. 

 

1 QUOTE 

Never settle. Respect the hustle. Always tussle. 

No one is responsible for your own happiness but you. 

 

1 TIP 

There’s a concept from William Ury’s ‘Getting to Yes With Yourself’ where it talks about having an inner BATNA (Best Alternative to A Negotiated Agreement)

 

This inner BATNA is that whatever happens (You lose your job, you quit your job, you miss the promotion), 

you’re going to take care of yourself. 

 

You’re not going to put responsibility for your own happiness in the hands of your employers, supervisors or bosses. You’re going to care for yourself. 

 

Today, as harsh as this may sound, if you don’t like your work, stop complaining. It does nothing. You throw responsibility out of your window into someone else’s lap. 

 

It’s only your action that will change things. 

What’s the smallest step you can take to improve things? 

John

 

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