2-3-4 Friday
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1 thought
That's my dog.
My dog has gone blind. Each day, she struggles to find her way around the house. She knocks into things, gets stuck in corners, and needs guiding to her feeding bowl. What pains me is the time she trips over something. She would walk over a raised surface, and then
fall.
But each time, she pushes herself up. She’s 16 this year. If you know dogs, that’s roughly the age of a 102-year-old grandma.
She’s an inspiration for me. Because there are those days aren’t there?
Where you want to give up, sit down, and cry. When you don’t want to fight anymore. When you want to walk away. When you wish that life were easier.
When you know you deserve better.
On days like that, how do you continue?
I’m not going to give you a prep talk and yell
‘GET UP!’
Actually, I’m going to say,
Get out.
Quit. Leave.
You may sometimes make the mistake of the ‘sunk cost’ fallacy, where you think that because you’ve devoted so much effort to something, if it doesn’t work out, you just have to work harder.
There’s something about grit, and not giving up that holds an allure for many of us.
But sometimes, it’s important to think,
What stops me from quitting?
From my own experience, banging your head against something that will notbudge may not be the smartest way of doing things. Thinking through why you’re keeping at this thing that’s clearly not working, isn’t meant to demotivate
you.
But it’s meant to force you to reexamine your assumption. That
quitting is wrong.
Because sometimes, quitting works.
1 quote
Quitting is not giving up, it's choosing to focus your attention on something more important.
Quitting is not losing confidence, it's realizing that there are more valuable ways you can spend your time. Quitting is not making excuses, it's learning to be more productive, efficient and effective instead.
Quitting is letting go of things (or people) that are sucking the life out of you so you can do more things that will bring you strength.”
― Osayi Osar-Emokpae, Impossible Is Stupid
1 tip
Close to quitting?
Here are three immediate things to lift your spirit. Think of them like emergency adrenaline shots to spike your motivation.
- Write a letter of love to yourself. Write down three qualities of what you love about yourself, and practical examples of how you have shown them in the past. After writing it, read it out loud to yourself.
- Write down two things you’re proud of achieving today and one thing you can improve on. This keeps you focused on progress, not perfection.
- Write down a brain dump. Julia Cameron calls them morning pages, where you get out everything on 3 pages, without censoring, editing, and cutting. It encourages you to ‘metabolise’ your emotions, helping you to get it out of your system.
John
liveyoungandwell.com - Work Your
Love
P.S. If you’re ready to quit at work, and need some advice on how to move forward, let’s talk more.
