2-3-4 Friday
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1 thought
I used to ask for advice. Lots of it. When I was first trying to figure out with my life, I asked hundreds of people about how they figured out what they
wanted to do with life.
It led me to so much confusion that I nearly wanted to take my life. At that point, my only thought was:
since I don’t know what to do with my life, what’s the point of continuing further with life?
I
hope you don’t land up in that situation, where you’re so lost that you don’t know what to do.
But over the years, I’ve realised this.
If you don’t know where you want to go, it doesn’t matter where you’re going.
Working with young people, often they tell me that they don’t know what their passion is, or what they’re good at.
I used to give them well-meaning advice. Then I realised it may actually lead people to be more lost.
So the first question you should ask yourself is, the next time you want to ask for advice, is,
What do you want?
Often it’s hard for us to figure out what that is because we grow up in environments that may not be nurturing of your desires. Well-meaning parents or society may tell you about the obligations you have. They may say,
You should get a job.
Go for what’s safer.
Choosing between duty and desire is a big choice.
But my advice?
Choose desire. And if you don’t know what you want, deep down, then stop asking for advice. It will only get you more lost.
1 talk
If you don’t know where you want to go, it doesn’t matter where you’re going.
1 tip
Don’t
know what you want? Look back at the course of your life. When was the last time you chased something, holding on with everything you had, even when things didn’t look like it was going to work out?
It may have been a failed relationship. Or a career. Or a certain esoteric topic of interest.
It doesn’t have to be something big.
But looking back at that allows you to identify what it felt like, and what it feels to rediscover that again.
Some
questions to reflect and write about:
- When was the last time I really wanted something?
- What did I do to get that?
- How did it feel like? Here, paint out your senses - what it smelt
like, what it looked like, and what it tasted like.
Ultimately, knowing what you want matters much more than getting a conversation with another guru or famed advisor. Because even they can’t tell what to do with your life.
Only you know what you want to do.
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John
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