2-3-4 Friday

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1 THOUGHT

2 days to the end of the year. It’s that time of the year, isn’t it? When people wind down, and start realising,

wow, it was a really fast year this year.

How many times do we say that? Maybe since we’ve started growing up, adulting.

We say that perhaps we are overworked, life moves too fast, and we are too busy. We become caught up in doing all the Christmas-y things, attending parties, get-togethers, and when we get there, silently wishing,

I shouldn’t have come.

Has there been a time when you’ve even said,

Wow, that was a slow year. I really enjoyed it.

As you wind down to a close of the year, you may also start making those new year resolutions. Rather than thinking of what you can do the following year, why not take some time to think of what you can drop?

Rolf Dobelli, the writer of books like The Art of the Good Life once wrote,

Every year on December 31 my wife and I write down on slips of paper the names of people who aren’t good for us and whom we no longer want in our lives. Then we cast them solemnly into the fire, one by one. It’s a therapeutic and salutary ritual.

Some people just may not be that helpful for you growing up.

You may have outgrown them.

But sometimes we stick to them because choosing someone different is tough. Finding someone different is difficult. We end up going to the same loathsome people over and over again, even though deep down we know that they leave us more sapped than when we first started.

Pruning relationships, is an absolute must in life.

Just as you prune the dead flowers on your plant so that new things can bud, sometimes there needs to be necessary endings in life so that you can flourish again.

This New Year, as you sit by the fire, think of some names you would rather not keep. Toss them in the fire.

You will be glad you did that.

1 TALK

A related life rule is “Only work with people you like and trust.”

 

As Charlie Munger says, “Oh, it’s just so useful dealing with people you can trust and getting all the others the hell out of your life... But wise people want to avoid other people who are just total rat poison, and there are a lot of them.”

 

Rolf Dobelli, The Art of the Good Life

1 TIP

When you drop friends, you have to find new ones. Sometimes, that’s tough.

Here’s something that helped me.

Set yourself a goal to try a new group activity. Salsa. Or boxing. Or a group fitness class.

Talk to someone new.

Make an effort. Reach out. You will be surprised.

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John

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